Now if you have watched Friends you will know that Joey’s chat upline is the title of this blog. And if you do know how Joey says “How you doing?” your brain may have just read the tile using Joey’s voice and if not you may have just it now haha.
So where are we going with this weeks blog, let me start by saying this is not a blog about chat up lines but it is about friends, relationships and caring for one another and ourselves. This week I want to ask you with all sincerity “How are you doing?”. When was the last time someone asked you how you doing and it was not a pleasantry at the start of a met and greet but it was a genuine question looking for a honest as possible answer from the one being asked.
So here I am asking you, how are you doing…..
Physically: How is your physical health at present? How are you looking after your physical body? Is there support you need to help you?
Mentally: How is your mental health? What have you been thinking about lately? How are you caring for your mental health?
Spiritually: How is your spiritual self doing? Where is your spiritual journey at this moment?
Emotionally: How are you and your emotions getting on?
It’s good when someone asks how are you doing and you can see that they are genuine about asking the question and take the time to listen. But let me ask you this – when was the last time you asked yourself “How am I doing?” and made time to think and reflect about each of the above areas. We are good at noticing in the moment that this is wrong or that’s wrong and maybe very little time going deeper asking why? Can it be changed? Do I want it to change? Does it need to be changed? We are also good at not really remembering the good things too and spending time reflecting on them.
Philippians 4: 4-9 (AMP) has become my wellbeing scripture.
“4 Rejoice in the Lord always [delight, take pleasure in Him]; again I will say, rejoice! 5 Let your gentle spirit [your graciousness, unselfishness, mercy, tolerance, and patience] be known to all people. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious or worried about anything, but in everything [every circumstance and situation] by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your [specific] requests known to God. 7 And the peace of God [that peace which reassures the heart, that peace] which transcends all understanding, [that peace which] stands guard over your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus [is yours].
8 Finally, [a]believers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, whatever is lovely and brings peace, whatever is admirable and of good repute; if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think continually on these things [center your mind on them, and implant them in your heart]. 9 The things which you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things [in daily life], and the God [who is the source] of peace and well-being will be with you.”
Our wellbeing (the physical, mental, spiritual and emotional us) is important, it’s important to God, you and others . You are important! Just as you are right now.
There is so much going on in the world from our own individual lives, communities, nationally and the world as a whole. Covid is still around and we have fuel and food prices rising. It can be and is overwhelming at time. If you need to talk please do reach out to those you trust, or ask for help too look for professional support. It’s always good to talk and sometimes it’s not that you want someone to fix the issues or situation, you just want to be heard, listen too and get it off your chest and out of your head so you can exhale and breathe again.
Also remember to reach out to your family and friends, try to make some time where you can and ask them How are you doing? Giving space and time for them to share if they want too. Let’s continue to care and show love for one another, ourselves and God.
God bless
Sue
Questions:
- Who can do the best Joey impression?
- What is the best chat up line you have heard? Or even used? Keep it clean!
- Which of the four areas of wellbeing do you… a) find easy b) find hard …to do?
- Do you set time aside to ask yourself how you are doing? What might this look like for you?
- Do you think the scripture given above works to help thinking about your wellbeing? If so how?
We are enjoying Glenn and Angela’s garden this week so if you would like to come please let David know by emailing him at davidwynd(@)hotmail.com or sending a message via our discord or on the Sunday@thePub Facebook page.
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Has been a part of BeachcomberFX since his arrival in the North East in 2014. He is well travelled (at least in the UK) having lived in Manchester, Nottingham, Derbyshire, Southport, Doncaster, Berwick and Edinburgh. Supporter of Newcastle United, will watch any sport.